How to Regain That Spark in Your Marriage

Married couples face all kinds of challenges—especially in the past year or so. Being locked in a small space with your spouse will take a toll on any married couple’s intimacy—even if they had few problems with emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy in the pre-pandemic days. It’s not that easy to try harder in your marriage when it’s been a long time of trying harder in every area of your life. Nonetheless, it’s crucial to work hard on fixing marital issues, from disagreements about finances to creating space for vulnerability.

So, what can you do to regain the spark you felt with your spouse when you were newlyweds? There are a few things you can be doing to make things better. Read on to explore a few of these strategies.

Date night goes a long way.

Date night might sound like a cliché, or as something only old married couples do, but it’s not. The hard truth is that unless you make time to spend with your spouse, you won’t have the time to talk about what matters, and your intimacy will go out the window. Not to mention that scheduling time with your spouse shows that your emotional connection matters to you, which goes a long way towards encouraging a leap of faith on your partner’s part.

Consider supplements to boost your sex life.

One thing that inhibits a healthy sex life is when something isn’t working the way you want it to or the way it once did. As we age, all our parts start to work a little differently. You don’t have to have a conversation with your spouse about erectile dysfunction if it makes you uncomfortable. Still, you also can’t just ignore your erectile dysfunction and hope it goes away. The good news is that there are natural supplements, like Extenze, that can take prescription drugs like Viagra and help with erections and even penis enlargement. If you have a physical challenge, like erectile dysfunction or difficulty achieving an erection, speak to a physician about incorporating supplements into your daily routine.

The intimacy of all kinds is crucial.

It’s not enough to find time for sexual intimacy to cultivate more intimacy in your marriage—all kinds of intimacy need to be practiced. You can try to develop emotional intimacy in your own way. In the same way, you would reach out to your best friend to share about the hard times you’re having; you can speak about struggles with your spouse as well. At the end of the day, though, emotional intimacy can be hard to cultivate. If you and your partner struggle with this kind of closeness, you might consider getting the insights of a marriage counselor to help you develop an intimate relationship on a deeper level.

Forgiveness is hard, but it’s the only way to have a healthy marriage.

Forgiveness is a tall order, especially when you have disagreements about a hobby you dislike or sharing finances. Nonetheless, the only way to get past a difficult time is to put the circumstances of your disagreements behind you. The only way to do that is to find a way to forgive. You’ll find that once you’ve achieved forgiveness, true intimacy and empathy will flood back into your marriage.

No one likes relationship work. When you’re going through a rough patch, the instinct may be to cut and run. That’s the easy way, though, and if you always run, you’ll never find a happy marriage. After many years of marriage, unhappiness is inevitable. That doesn’t mean it’s your destiny to be unhappy, though. It just means that you can’t have a successful long-term relationship without much effort. You’re growing and changing, that’s all. With a little hard work and some openness, you’ll find yourself back on track soon enough.

Dixie Frazier

Content Director

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